بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
It's been a while since I've posted anything other than stories of my life. I'm not perfect but I'll do my best.
These tips that I'm going to write is written in Ihya' Ulumuddin, a very famous writing of Imam Ghazali being a very famous scholar, I'm sure we'll have benefit following it.
- Find a teacher that can really guide us. The teacher must be pure of heart and steady in faith. The teacher can see our flaws and weaknesses and able to give guidance on the matter and that can help to repair the flaw.
- Befriend with somebody who is good willed and steady in faith. This friend can help us to shape our character for the better and we can sincerely accept his/her advice. This is the path followed by famous Muslims before. Saidina Omar al-Khattab once asked Salman al-Farisi, "What weakness do you see in me?". Salman al-Farisi replied with two weaknesses in Omar and Omar accepted it.
- Benefit the negative comments from the enemy. Actually, a man can benefit more from the comments from the enemy about his/her flaws than from the praises received from friends. Individuals usually count the critics from the enemy as worthless views contradicting individuals who likes to benefit from criticism.
- Learn from others' weaknesses. In interactions, at times we find the negativity and flaws in the character of the person. At the time, we must view the discovered weakness of the other person as our own and must be improved. Make others as a mirror of ourself for a mu'min is mirror of another mu'min.
So that's it. I hope we can all benefit from these tips given by the famous scholar Imam Ghazali and become better muslims.